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A black girl guide to dating a white man

I love being a black woman, and anyone who knows me is aware that I am a huge advocate for many issues in the black community.That being said, my attraction to other races is a reflection on how I feel about other people, not how I feel about myself.

While we know our society is ripe with stereotypes, we just hope for a day when a blogger like Funky Brown Chick won't have to write a list titled How To Date A Black Woman to quiet all those who incessantly ask her. But don't (and this should be a rule when dating anyone) pretend you are looking for something serious when really all you want is to add Black Woman (or whatever race) to your sex resume."There are plenty of places and opportunities to do that," she says. She says, "When dating someone from a background other than your own, be prepared to brush up against ideas that may or may not run counter to your beliefs. Try to avoid seeing this as some sort of racial science experiment.I know, it’s shocking, but my parents want the best for me. Just because I also love white guys does not mean that I have anything against the chocolate loveliness that is blackness. No, a single black man did not “ruin” me, making me turn to other races, and no, I don’t think black is whack.I just enjoy being around people of all different cultures.I’m not sure if people are expecting a huge scandal involving me getting disowned from my family and having to move in with friends from my interracial relationship support group, but I’m sorry to disappoint.My parents want nothing but the best for me and are happy to accept anyone that brings joy to my life.Out of all the ridiculous things that I have heard, this is probably the most offensive.

Just because I am attracted to guys of all races does not make me love my race less.

Second, I am not the spokesperson for white guys who like black girls. I am not dating a white man because I want mixed kids.

Yes, I do have a twisted sense of humor and I have referred to myself as “the white boy magnet,” but if we are being serious, please don’t treat me like e-Harmony. This is a horribly offensive statement to make in 2016.

Here is a list of some of the most annoying struggles of being a black girl who likes white boys.

This has got to be the number one most annoying question that I get asked pretty much any time people find out that I have had white boyfriends.

(But that's just a guess.)As much as we wish nationality wasn't such an issue in dating, you'd be shocked how often we hear this type of thing too. And while this is specifically geared toward black women, you could certainly cut and paste any race that isn't yours into these tips. Get your pencils ready folks, number 1's a doozy:1. Funky Brown Chick says, "If you’ve never dated a black woman before and you’d like to ask someone out, simply say something like: 'Hey, are you free on Friday? "But I think most people want to be cherished/loved/cared for/desired/etc.