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“Even with the age gap, I’ve never quite met anyone like him,” she says. It's a question worth considering given the recent news that the app Grindr, which is designed to help gay men meet, may have played a role in the deaths of Glenser Soliman and An Vinh Nguyen, two Houston-area men who disappeared earlier this year.
Actress Gabrielle Union, 44, and her husband, Chicago Bulls player Dwyane Wade, 35, are often lauded as a power couple. “Older successful men are used to being in control of a woman, and that doesn’t sit well with modern women,” says Susan Winter, co-author of the book “Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance.” “Younger men have grown up with working women and have worked for female bosses, so they’re more likely to treat women equally.” Some in these relationships agree.The news "should be a little bit of a wakeup call" for people using apps to meet partners, said John Wright, the editor of Houston's Out Smart magazine, which is published for the LGBTQ community."I would certainly hope that cases like this would cause people to think twice." Women almost always are urged to take precautions when meeting men they don't know.“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic.“Dating somebody younger than myself, there’s an acceptance of ambitious women — it’s more normalized.” They met at the University of Hawaii in November 2002, when she was a law student and he was a sophomore undergraduate.When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.
While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.
“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.
Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues.
Prior to meeting Siegner in 2012, Angal was a tour manager for a music company and had a lifestyle he describes as “sex, drugs and rock ’n’ roll.” He mostly dated party girls in their 20s.
But when he was set up with Siegner by a mutual friend, matchmaker Sameera Sullivan, he says his life turned around.
But men tend not to think of themselves as potential crime victims when they're meeting strangers for dates or sex, said Andrew Edmonson, a gay rights activist in Houston.