Aunty without sex
We all gasped and told her to go home and throw the poor guy a bone.(Did I mention we don't actually read books anymore in my book club?
"It took the pressure off our nights and became something we both started to look forward to," she says. " Taylor, a mom of two young boys, agrees: "Believe it or not, having kids can add an element of playfulness and adolescent mischief to your sex life.Some of that was because it wasn't my first rodeo, but I know it also had to do with hormones—and my body being "mine" again much sooner.When I posed the "what changes about sex after baby?"I always feel closer to my husband after we have sex," says Taylor."But I have also found, both personally and from talking to friends, that no matter how evolved a man is, they really are easier to get along with when the sex is regular.One friend referred to her first time postbaby as a blowtorch going where the sun don't shine. Yes, even if your nether regions weren't harmed in the delivery of your baby, postpartum hormones can cause trouble down there.
"The assumption is that the pain is from the trauma of delivery, which it definitely can be, but it also has to do with low levels of estrogen that affect the elasticity of the vaginal tissues," says Rebecca Booth, M.
D., a Louisville, Kentucky, gynecologist and author of .
Estrogen levels drop right after giving birth and remain low while breastfeeding.
Childbirth can also shift our internal parts into just the right place, to make them more sensitive to stimulation.
"Many women report more comfort with their bodies and more intense orgasms after having kids," she adds.
"Nursing releases oxytocin, a hormone that triggers good feelings toward the baby but also suppresses your libido," says Dr. "Anthropologically speaking, keeping your sex drive low is your body's way of preventing another pregnancy too soon.