Christian women dating non christians
You need to use your instinct and have a discerning ear. There is no one-size-fits-all approach as every couple is completely unique.Over the course of our ministry at Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New York, one of the most common pastoral issues that Tim and I have confronted is proposed marriages between Christians and non-Christians.
An obvious problem would be if the partner was actively ‘anti’ the faith of the Christian.Even the obstacle of bald disobedience need not apply to them.Only ten minutes of conversation—one minute if the person is really succinct—would be necessary.That way, I could skip all the Bible passages that urge singles only to “marry in the Lord” (1 Corinthians ) and not “be unequally yoked” (2 Corinthians ) and the Old Testament proscriptions against marrying the foreigner, a worshiper of a god other than the God of Israel (see Numbers 12 where Moses marries a woman of another race but the same faith).You can find those passages in abundance, but when someone has already allowed his or her heart to become engaged with a person outside the faith, I find that the Bible has already been devalued as the non-negotiable rule of faith and practice.So either the marriage experiences stress and breaks up, or it experiences stress and stays together, achieving some kind of truce that involves one spouse or the other capitulating in some areas, but which leaves both parties feeling lonely and unhappy.
Does this sound like the kind of marriage you want?
But it’s dangerous to bandy about those verses out of context.
Paul also says that somebody whose partner is an unbeliever should not divorce them.
But if they can both sign up to what Paul says about love ‐ that it is not arrogant, rude or resentful ‐ then they already have a lot in common.
Paul says ‘do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever’ in 2 Corinthians.
He would now quite happily call himself a Christian and a believer.