Dating after an affair
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the Pinger, the Couch Potato and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men also meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in their 40s, 50s and beyond.
She believes her sexuality is the only way she can attract a man, or she wants this point in her life to be a series of sexual experiences. She posts a provocative picture on her online dating profile, invites him over to her house on the first date, shows too much skin (especially for a woman over 40), and is overly familiar with her affection.The Scaredy Cat he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.The Wow Me Woman is often single for a very, very long time.The Bitter Gal The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.The 18 Year Old The 18 year old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
By default she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.) The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18 year old.
The wall she has erected is just too high for him to climb in order to get to the other side.
Since trust and affection are what men yearn for from women, he usually does her a favor and leaves…hence rendering her “right” once again.
(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.) The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life.
Her life isn’t going the way she wants and she just can’t figure out why.
The Wow Me Woman The Wow Me Woman is a midlife gal who still thinks that excitement is the key to judging if a guy is a good match. Men sense her quick judgment, which leaves them feeling deflated, unattractive and powerless.