Dating and how slow is slow
Circular arguments only occur when feelings are ignored in favor of opinions. I felt good about having stuck to my guns regarding not becoming sexual too soon.
Her response was that I wasn't being emotionally honest.Since she had read my articles on emotional honesty in , I was surprised by her accusation.I told her that in fact I had just shared my emotional truth with her, and that my feelings are my absolute truth.For me, this isn't the time for 60s casual morality, and bouncing back from a failed relationship is too painful to just go with the flow.After a half-dozen dates, I began noticing the cracks in our relationship, and some were too big to paint over.I felt foolish for having gone off to the races so quickly.
Sure, she had pushed for more intimacy, but I didn't have to acquiesce.
But rushing to fall in love makes falling in love impossible for me, because the pressure to commit doesn't allow my feelings to develop naturally.
In truth, falling in love is hard to resist in midlife.
Spiders don't take their webs down when they've caught their dinner. If I meet a woman, and we date and like each other, what's the next step?
I realized after a brief relationship recently, that I wasn't ready to trust her.
It's also an opportunity to discover the sweet subtleties of a woman's nature.