Dating culture in france
He’s been trained to behave like that by French woman, and he’s just thinking you’re playing hard to get and/or you need convincing. I’ve noticed that in an American woman’s mouth “I don’t know” often means “no” and “maybe” often means “yes”.Usually, in a French woman’s mouth (and consequently in a French man’s ear) “I don’t know” means “I don’t know, I’m not sure, convince me.” And “maybe” means “maybe, I’m not sure, convince me.”OK, the asking has been done, the date is about to happen.
One thing that always disturbed me in the US is how it’s sometimes easy to kiss or to get kissed (I’m talking mouth kissing, or even French kissing here).Remember that dates are not as codified in France, which means that basically anything goes, and what will make it a good or a bad date is whether you had a good time or not, and not whether he or she said or did this or that.Now, here are a few important points where things are quite different between France and the US (sorry for the non-Americans among you, but I’m sure you can compare to your own culture): In the US, there are all those strange rules about calling; who’s calling who, when, how much time between two calls, etc, etc. And, usually and contrarily to the US, the more the guy calls, the better.Actually, the very concept of dating is not very clearly defined in France. It mostly consists in saying “Would you like to [insert something about dining, going to a movie or similar activities here] together?” You usually ask this to the girl after you’ve known her a little, having met her at work, school, through common friends, etc.I say , because it’s really rare that the woman asks the man out in France. Please note that in France, you rarely meet your future date in a bar or a club… A big difference between both countries is the bar scene.
In France, it’s really rare that you talk to strangers in a bar, unless it’s a very lively bar, it’s late at night and everybody is very drunk and happy.
Also note that blind dates are almost non-existent in France.
But also note that all of those things have been changing a lot in recent years because of internet dating that has become extremely popular in France, and especially in Paris. So if a French woman says no when you ask her out (or anything else), it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to go out with you, it means she’s playing hard to get, and you’ll have to ask several times.
I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.
Here I’m assuming that one of the two persons involved is a local.
Do you simply go to the country, you meet the man, and there you go? Everything in our lives is influenced by our cultures. Especially dating…Ignoring the dating rules of the country you’re in will cause trouble and failures in your dating attempts (yes, I’m sadly talking from experience here, Jennifer, if you read this : “sorry, I misunderstood a few things back in 1998”).