Dating like a boss
When the product on the line is you, it’s worth investing more than just clothes and lipstick. In a business, the object is to sale products or services.
Stepping away from the usual dating rules and thinking of dating as a business could get you out of the loser/jerk rut you’ve been in. The most important thing to do when thinking of dating as a business is to make a plan. Tell him straight up: "I need you here to protect and provide for us, to give us security in our lives, to help raise these children, to set an example for this boy, who needs to see what real men do, and for this girl, who needs to know what a real man is so she can find one of her own someday.I need you to be the head of this family."Lay it out like this, and your requirements will trump his mother's every time.” ― Steve Harvey, “Newsflash: it's not the guy who determines whether you're a sports fisher or a keeper-it's you.(Don't hate the player, hate the game.) When a man approaches you you're the one with total control over the situation-whether he can talk to you, buy you a drink, dance with you, get your number, take you home, see you again, all of that.We certainly want these things from you; that's why we talked to you in the first place.It might not sound like the most romantic approach, but dating is a lot like running a business. I know it sounds like far too much work, but isn’t it a pain spending hours getting ready for a bunch of dates that never go anywhere?
When you take out all the pressure of finding “The One”, it’s easier to put things into perspective. A little work upfront leads to some fun playtime later on. Your friend has found the perfect guy for you, but you’re really not attracted to him. Otherwise, the right guy could pass you by while you’re on a date with an obvious mister wrong. I hate it when I see grown women changing themselves for every guy they date.
“Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand.
If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up.
The same philosophy can be applied to dating: if putting your requirements on the table means you risk him walking away, it's a risk you have to take.
Because that fear can trip you up every time; all too many of you let the guy get away with disrespecting you, putting in minimal effort and holding on to the commitment to you because you're afraid he's going to walk away and you'll be alone again. We recognize this and play on it, big time.” ― Steve Harvey, “I'm here to tell you, though, ladies that the term "gold digger" is one of the traps we men set to keep you off our money trail; we created that term for you so that we can have all our money and still get everything we want from you without you asking for or expecting this very basic, instincual responsibility that men all over the world are obligated to assume and embrace. KNOW THIS: It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exhange for your time.” ― Steve Harvey, “You're an investigator - can't nobody find stuff out like a woman.
They decide what products to sell, pricing, types of customers to target, branding and more. Want to only go to casual restaurants on the first date? Want to start the date with a kiss to take the pressure off? Making the rules yourself shows off your personality, makes you feel more confident and lets a guy know who you really are.