Dating like a guy
I’ll tell you why: Because you have to date if you want love in your life. You get to feeling like it’s just not worth all the nonsense, hurt and disappointment. You have a pretty good life, so why are you bothering?
And no matter how great your life is, the love, commitment and adoration of a partner adds a richness that you just can’t get any other way. As the “Compassionate Truth Teller” that I am, I had to give Debbie the straight facts to help her move through her self-inflicted emotional turmoil.Having been rejected time and time again by so many women, they aren't too quick about putting themselves back in a vulnerable position unless it feels safe to do so.If you like a man, encourage him with eye contact, a warm smile or a flirt online to let them know you're interested.Online dating has become a tremendous source of frustration and failure for them.Many become despondent at the very thought of having to go back online after a relationship ends. On the big screen, they show us men like Tom Cruise's character in the movie, , professing his love with romantic speeches that end in the famous words, "You complete me." Real men show you their love by cutting your grass and giving you their coat when you're cold. Let them open the door for you or change that light bulb you can't reach. All they want in return is to be appreciated and thanked. He's doing his best and yes, you may be able to do it better or faster than he can but don't. If he has offered to do something for you, allow him to do it his way.I hope we have fun.” And if he likes you “It’ll be cool to see her again and get to know her better.” After a date or two, if what he learns doesn’t knock his socks off, or you don’t want to see him again, he doesn’t spend days wallowing in disappointment. A relationship is about DECIDING if he truly is your One.
Believe it or not, there are some ways women can benefit from taking a cue from our male counterparts.
As a dating coach, I speak with amazing women over 50 daily about their dating lives.
They communicate the desperation they are feeling about ever finding a good man to share their lives with.
So often, women remark about their partners, “Getting him to talk about his problems is like pulling teeth.” By nature, men are controlled and competitive; they keep their emotions to themselves. If you really need to express yourself, try writing in a journal, talking to a therapist, spiritual counselor or girlfriend. Men aren’t ready to take care of all of your problems, clean your house, run your errands and rub your feet after the first date. For a man, listening to a woman’s problems is a lot of work, because he feels like he has no choice but to solve all them. It is a wonderful quality be to caring and loving, but don’t be afraid to be a bit selfish, take care of yourself first and let the man fend for himself.
Women are hard-wired to talk and “get out” our feelings, which might be one of the reasons why we live longer. In her book, Marianne Williamson writes, “There’s nothing more powerful than a woman who knows how to contain her power and not let it leak, standing firmly within it in mystery and silence. Women, on the other hand, seem to believe that the more they do for a man, the more he will appreciate her and want to be with her. He will probably be grateful, but he won’t respect you, and he will expect you to take care of all the details, all of the time.
Four dating pitfalls of intelligent women When in early stages of dating, never do for a man what he can do for himself or hire someone to do.