Dating my ex wife after divorce
The reasons why you decided to get a divorce has an impact on the chances of reconciliation.
If you were too aloof make an honest attempt to find interest in her work or hobbies and look her in the eye when she shares her thoughts with you. It's easy, because of your history, to jump to conclusions or have preconceived notions of what her motives are or what she's thinking. When we think of major events in our life as transitions, we can visualize these life transitions as a continuum where there are stages, just as there are stages of grief when we lose someone close to us.Divorce is often described as the “death of a civilization” because a marriage is like a civilization with its own people, norms, and complex history…However, if the issues were devastating to either spouse such as abuse or infidelity, the chances of reconciliation are much smaller.It would take a great deal of counseling and work in the relationship to prove the adulterer or abuser is trustworthy and safe.There are issues you want to make sure are either taken care of or in the past. Rushing back into your relationship could result in inadvertently sweeping old hurts under the rug.
Then there is the entire dating scenario and the questions of how fast or slow to move, what is appropriate and what is not. Be ready to overcome these by quickly recognizing them and consider placing the same importance (or lack thereof) on them as you would if you were dating someone new. These will come back eventually, so feel free to take it one step at a time so that when things come up you aren't already so emotionally deep into the relationship that you can't discuss it objectively. If what you and your ex-wife tried in the past had worked she wouldn't be your ex. There is no rush, no obligation to make it something it's not, and no pressure to perform in old ways or according to old precepts. Renee Miller has been writing professionally since 2008.
Making the decision to date your ex-wife is never an easy one.
Once you've decided to take the plunge there are some basic rules you may want to consider.
In addition, with the continued connection between ex-spouses because of their children, some couples find they still do have feelings for each other after the turmoil from the separation subsides.
If the problems in your marriage are reversible, in that with work you can solve them, it's possible you can reconcile.
While it's not the easiest decision, it can turn out quite well for both you and your ex. The worst thing you can do is jump into dating your e- wife if you have doubts. Ask yourself what you want for your personal future and go forward. Her accomplishments include being featured in Harlots' Sauce online magazine in January 2009, among others. She is currently a designer for an upscale floral design shop.