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Recently the subject of guys and breakups came up and Sabrina and I went back and forth about what guys generally go through when they breakup.
It has its cost though and eventually devolves into a crippling neediness.I don’t think it’s that guys don’t want to deal with the breakup…I think it’s more that they wouldn’t even know how or where to begin… but if I could go back and tell my 15-year-old self a piece of advice about breakups, it would be, “If you get dumped, just move on right away.Unfortunately, it’s a false sense of well-being and is entirely dependent on the actions of others (thus the inevitable crippling neediness).For men and women, growth in relationship is in direct proportion to one’s sense of emotional responsibility.It changes the guy and, in turn, changes the relationship.
As a result, the relationship usually suffers and, in the case of this example, ends.
For people that haven’t yet fully realized that all of us need to be emotionally responsible (which is most people), this is where much of the pain of the breakup originates from (they blame themselves for not “measuring up”…
or they blame the other person for not “making them happy”… It’s incredibly painful to believe that someone else could be responsible for your emotions or that you could possibly be responsible for their emotions.
Move on immediately, you’ll save yourself a whole lot of time and heartache.” MORE: Ask a Guy: How Can I Avoid Being the Rebound?
A guy once told me that, “A man is devastated at the end of a relationship to the extent to which he sold himself out.” What does it mean for a guy to sell himself out (in the context of a relationship)?
Maybe he changes his lifestyle, stops hanging out with certain friends, or changes his habits.