Drug recovery and dating
In many cases, these relationships are not only distracting and dysfunctional, but they also put both partners at increased risk of relapse. Promiscuity, Affairs or Risky Sexual Behavior If your therapist recommends sexual abstinence for at least the first 90 days of sobriety and you feel like all air has escaped the room, you may be struggling with an underlying love or sex addiction.An inability to be alone, feeling worthless or unloved when not in a relationship, or a sudden drop in self-esteem brought on by having fewer sexual partners can all point to a deeper issue.
Why do relationships in early recovery so often lead to relapse? At a time when emotions are already unstable, a break-up can trigger the kind of anger and despair that used to be assuaged with drugs or alcohol.Take the first year in recovery to focus on nonsexual relationships with yourself, your therapist, and supportive friends and family and save romantic relationships for a time when you’re fully grounded in your recovery. Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places Bars, clubs and parties are a favorite place to meet potential partners.For those in early recovery, these are not the best places for finding love for obvious reasons.Alcohol and drug use are an accepted (and sometimes expected) part of the dating scene, which can trigger a relapse for even the most resolute.In addition, the relationships formed in these places are likely “hook-ups” (casual, and perhaps risky, sexual encounters) rather than genuine connections, which can become addictive in and of themselves.All of these behaviors may be indicative of underlying issues, including low self-esteem, unresolved trauma (such as childhood sexual abuse), and sex and love addiction.
Many people relate to some of the symptoms of sex or love addiction, but do not recognize it as a problem in their lives.
If you manage to escape the party scene drug-free, there’s a good chance you’ve selected a partner who uses drugs in some form.
Even if you’re determined to protect your sobriety, it is often only a matter of time before you end up joining them.
Science shows that both sex and drugs boost dopamine activity in the brain, so it is not surprising that the same person who struggles with drug addiction is at greater risk of sex and love addiction, as well as other compulsions and addictions.
In the first few months following drug rehab, when your recovery is at its most vulnerable, a relationship will likely become your primary focus and your recovery (and yourself) will take second or third.
They may also find themselves being discharged early for having sex with other clients or being spoken to about dressing provocatively or flirting with the staff.