Effects of verbal abuse in dating
All the while, the victims of the emotional abuse, can “in severe cases, lose a cohesive sense of self, identity, or confidence." They can also struggle with emotion regulation skills (anxiety, anger, despair) and efficacy (belief that our behavior can improve our lives), says Stosny.
Emotional abuse affects people over time, but not in small ways.Even with these glimpses of the issue, it can be hard to understand domestic abuse if you don't personally know someone affected by it.How could someone find themselves in such a horrible situation?Domestic abuse is one of those things no one really likes to be reminded of.But lately, with stories like that of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard spread across every magazine and domestic abuse PSAs receiving airtime in Super Bowl ads and music award shows, it’s become impossible to ignore—and rightly so.According to Sharie Stines, MBA, Psy D, a recovery expert specializing in personality disorders, complex trauma, and helping people overcome dysfunctional relationships, all forms of abuse have underlying threads in common.
As she explained to me, “physical abuse affects people. Emotional abuse affects people." Furthermore, she says, "Emotional abuse is interpersonal abuse.
In order to survive, often the women in these relationships are unable to recognize the danger they are in, so it’s important to get some outside perspectives. Call a domestic violence hotline to talk anonymously about your experiences with a knowledgable person.
Reach out to “a therapist who is familiar with ‘control and abuse dynamics’.”“Support from a network of friends and relatives or from professionals is a necessity for victims to serve as reality-checks,” Stosny echoes.
Stines named a few: “dissociation, addictions, deadness, anxiety, depression, eating disorders,” and more.
These are the things that leave their mark on victims of abuse.
Everyone thinks they’ll never permit physical abuse, but you don’t always know how damaged you’ll be or how you’ll respond after it happens.