Has internet dating changed society
We not only have a wealth of information on pretty much everyone only a click away but how and where we meet future partners is changing.
I got the chance to have a quick chat with him about what he uncovered during the process of researching and writing the book, and learned that one of the reasons he ventured into the subject matter was that his own parents had met online in the earliest days of computer dating!Through that process you learn more about yourself, learn more about what you want and how you get along with people.That is fantastic and online dating allows a lot more opportunities to do that.When I imagined the kinds of people I would be meeting for whatever reason, I imagined people who’d been unhappy in their relationship searches before, or people who had trouble with their social life before.I imagined meeting people who would have unrealistic expectations about what online dating could do for them.And when I got out there I did meet people that fell into those categories, but I also met people who fell into pretty much every category. On behalf of online dating, any technology that helps people not be alone is a wonderful thing. Anyone who is helping people not be alone is doing something noble.
It led to the revelation that when you have a third of single people using this technology, you aren’t going to find one kind of person, you are going to find many different kinds of people from many different kinds of backgrounds, just as you would find if you just went out and interviewed people who are in relationships. I do believe when you expand the mating pool as online dating has done, and you cause such a radical departure from all the rest of human history — where finding someone was based so much more on scarcity — you do wind up with a couple of things.
They cited the reason being similar to game mechanics.
If you like someone and they don’t like you, well then on to the next one.
On the one hand with people being a little choosier, those who use the technology a lot have a higher bar for happiness.
That means they are not going to settle as much in relationships, whereas in the past they may have because they didn’t perceive the alternatives to be so good.
I would say don’t be discouraged by a bad experience, because there are going to be a few of them.