Hearing person dating deaf person
There's nothing new about the Internet being a connection tool for geographically disconnected niches. But there’s something a little more important about these new services that are attracting thousands of single deaf people seeking companionship and love, experts say.
For example, when your boss tells you that he believes your hearing aid batteries need to be changed (what? So here are a few basic rules to follow when someone informs you that they are a bit deaf, hard of hearing or hearing impaired and as I said, I’ll use myself as an example: I suppose there are other items to add but since I’ve been this way so long now I’ve learned to compensate for ‘this’ and block out ‘that’ so well that it would be too hard to remember what I’ve blocked out if you get my meaning.That may sound a bit strange to most of you but it’s a completely valid point and over the years and I have found what my audiologist said is very true indeed. That being said, I have decided that a little insight in how to successfully converse with a deaf person is badly needed here so I, using myself as a subject, will endeavor to provide a few guidelines. If you can’t hear what you’re saying then your words are going to be very slurred indeed and that’s only if you were able to hear at one time which allows you to at least what it was like to properly form words.I’m partially deaf you see (as I stated in my previous post). There are others who may insist on using the terms with those who don’t but I myself have traveled through life without hurting anyone psychologically or perhaps terminally affecting their sense of self or afflicting great amounts of undue emotional stress or just generally ticking one of my fellow human beings off and all without being one bit politically correct about it. This is an entirely different matter and not what this post is about.Haines said members of his site include the completely deaf, aging singles who are losing their hearing — even sign language interpreters who can hear but are looking for relationships with people immersed in deaf culture. But deaf-hearing relationships are apparently the exception rather than the rule, according to anecdotal evidence.(Demographic statistics on the deaf community are hard to come by; the deaf cannot easily respond to random telephone polls and they are not identified in census data.) Jamie Berke, who runs the forum on deafness issues, got divorced after her deaf-hearing marriage didn’t succeed.“I did look on those hoping to find deaf partners, but of course deafness is not one of the selection criteria ...
so I turned to the deaf dating sites.” Despite the challenges of using a larger dating site, many deaf folks are doing it anyway.
She likes the niche sites, citing the difficulty for single deaf people to find each other.
She considered trying the larger dating sites after her divorce, Berke said, but decided they wouldn’t work for her.
Founder Paul Haines says the site has nearly 4,000 members, including about 1,000 who pay $20 a month to be “deluxe” members.
Already, he said, three couples credit Deaf Match International with their weddings.
By coincidence, “vice president of romance” Trish Mc Dermott formerly worked as an American Sign Language interpreter, making her well-versed in the issues surrounding deaf culture. While there is no selection criteria where users can identify themselves as deaf, members can mention a desire for deaf partners in their personal description.