Indian culture and dating
In my opinion, if they had to go out and attract a woman entirely on their own (and assuming she had unfettered free will and choice in the matter), they would be less likely to indulge in these behaviours. In years past I have come to India for work, and in my current stay in Delhi I am living with family and am privy to another side of India.Whilst the professional men that I have met don’t have the more distasteful personal habits, I do still find them very difficult to understand.
These behaviours appear to be generally accepted in Indian culture, no one bats an eyelid going about their day.We got along well and I enjoyed his company, until is philandering ways became apparent. It felt like he was a little boy hiding from his mother, not the strapping man that I had thought he was.Even at that point, he cowered and seemed incapable of admitting and facing the truth of his own behaviour. I recently arranged to catch up with an intelligent man I had come across, but on our first meeting he brought along a female friend.Also it is unclear to me if the separation of men and women (for example in the trains) is a reaction to the violence or the cause.Feeling a little uneasy, I continue on with my internet research and find this blog on Reasons to Marry an Indian Man.According to the article more than 65% of Indian men believed that women should tolerate violence to keep the family together and that women sometimes deserved to be beaten, furthermore 24% admitted to having committed sexual violence in their lives.
Whilst I have fortunately not come across anyone who has demonstrated these behaviours, it does seem to indicate that there are some deep seated issues in Indian culture where many men are treating women with little respect.
My simplistic explanation on why this behaviour is tolerated comes down to the arranged marriage.
The men I have observed undertaking this behaviour tend to be of lesser socio-economic means, and in my rudimentary understanding of the intricacies of Indian culture, I believe they are more likely to have an arranged marriage.
Several years ago I tried my hand at internet dating through the website
Here I found hundreds of men all with photos where they looked like their mother had dressed them.
So which one is true, or are they the two faces of the same person.