Internet dating game players
We need to pay attention to timing, as timing is everything, but we also want to pay attention to behavior.
I have been labeled as “playing hard to get” or “difficult” with many online dating prospects, because I have made a clear choice not to meet a guy without a cool phone convo first.In this crazy and fast-paced age of technology, we have lost sight of quality, real intimacy and conversation.Fortunately and unfortunately, we have options of people to date online beyond anything we could have imagined.Believe me, it is not always easy and I have had to have serious self-control to pass up a date with that sexy man who I had the hots for on the other end of the phone. Guys, women want to be courted and made to feel special.They don’t want to feel like a last minute plan or an afterthought.So by playing hard to get, I lost a guy I was really into.
I share that information in my last tip, so that maybe you won’t make the same mistake, you’ll communicate better and know when to walk away or try to make it work.
And, yes, we can choose to perceive it as an excuse; but I can tell you firsthand, I have been accused of playing hard to get or intentionally not being available when, in fact, I have been working 15-hour days.
If I am speaking at an event or filming on set for 12 hours straight, I am not playing hard to get, but may not even have my phone to call or text you back, and I certainly don’t have time to see you for dinner that night. More and more women are uber focused on their careers.
Speaking of games, I actually have a guy who has been texting me for four months and we have never met. I’m beginning to think it has become a game to him to see how hard to get I really am. I will retire my online dating jersey before I will go out with him.
Guys, this is a tough one and I have had a lot of time and experience to think about it.
I cannot tell you how many men I have clicked with via email online dating, to have them ask for my number.