Most intimidating thing to say to someone
I just don’t want someone to decide they dislike me because of a false assumption before they get to know me.When someone described me as intimidating when I was younger I was kind of like, I internalized it completely. Sometimes being intimidating does sound kind of cool. Most of the people I meet are very extroverted, and I think when they meet someone like me, who’s more introverted and quiet, they think I’m trying to be intimidating.
But for the girls/women out there, if you found a guy to be intimidating, would that be a good thing or a bad thing?You start out kind of jealous of them and then realize, I think it’s common to be jealous of someone but you don’t want to admit it, so you call them intimidating.I struggle with distinguishing between jealousy, intimidation, and wanting to be someone’s friend.HAZEL: I mostly think I’m not responsible for someone else’s dumb feelings, because, well, I’m not—but I’m still affected by how they see me. Maybe I want people to be a scared of me—maybe it’s better to have people think you’re scary, but then discover you’re kind and approachable. I think people use the intimidation thing as an excuse to cover up the fact that they’re really just personally scared of talking to someone they think is super awesome.GABBY: When I imagine an intimidating person, I think of a physically strong girl wearing a black leather jacket and perfect cat eyeliner. GABBY: I just Googled the definition of , and it means “to make timid or fearful, frighten especially, or to compel or deter as if by threats.” HAZEL: WE’RE NOT SCARY OR THREATENING! GABBY: I don’t think I’ve ever frightened someone into doing something for me, but one time in high school this boy I hated said that I scared him.Boys are just inherently intimidating to me—I’m only friends with girls so I don’t understand boys like 99% of the time. I’ve liked boys from afar, and I would automatically write them off because I thought they wouldn’t think I was cute, or I would guess that we wouldn’t share any interests.
DUDE, I WAS PROJECTING A LACK OF CONFIDENCE AND BELITTLING OTHERS! I have to remind myself that even if you’re the perfectly intimidating girl in my head who wears a leather jacket and great eyeliner, you probably still feel insecure, and you have to pee just like everyone else, and you probably watch Netflix alone sometimes, too. GABBY: Yeah, it was shocking the first time I found out.
Intimidation could just be feeling like you’re inadequate in comparison to a person.
You feel like you’re not cool enough to even talk to them or know them.
For example, would it be good in that a guy is too goodlooking or gives off an aura of confidence hard to shake or would it be bad in that the guy seemed to be offstandish and arrogant.
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Even though we went to different schools and lived in separate towns, we bonded over our similarities: We were both nerdy, ambitious feminists who liked to dress up and joke around.