Naked women at 50
Fellas, if you're in your 50s, single and dating (and feeling like you're not getting anywhere), consider this a little friendly feedback from the ladies.Maybe you've heard it all before, maybe it doesn't apply to you, maybe you've got the dating thing down -- it doesn't matter.
And women, lest you think you're off the hook, you're not.Despite the occasional dating disasters and mating missteps, there's a lot to love about you guys.You're older and wiser, smarter and sexier than you were in your younger days.You can prepare a lovely Italian meal for a guy, and all of a sudden he brings up the fact his ex made the best lasagna of all time." GF #2: "Men in their fifties can be cynical, especially if they were in a bad marriage.They talk about how awful their ex-wives are, and how much money they had to give them." GF #3: "Getting involved with a guy who's still reeling from his divorce can sometimes feel like he's having an affair, except that the 'other woman' isn't a woman, it's his anger." My Advice: Dump the baggage, dude.Even though I'm talking to the guys here, many of these points apply to you too. Dating in midlife isn't always easy, but at least you're all in it together, and you can all make it great.
So men, before you break out into a cold sweat, know that all this is well intended and researched. Since I got married for the first time at 51, I can speak from experience when it comes to dating men in their 50s.
To me, that's a turn-off." GF #2: "Some men don't want to invest the time it takes getting to know you.
If you don't sleep with them fast enough, they get frustrated and lose interest." GF #3: "Online daters, especially the older ones, are like kids in a candy store, not ever giving anyone a chance because there's always someone else." My Advice: Slow down.
And when you've accrued a decent amount of courtship hours, then you can bang away.
TOO FURIOUS Ok, so you're livid at your ex, or fuming about the divorce, or bitter you're still on after all these years. We get your circumstances might suck, but don't let it consume you.
I've gathered input from three of my most trusted single girlfriends whose ages range from early 40s to late-50s. We love you guys and want the best for you, so here goes.