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And while you’re fooling around, giving your partner real time feedback about what you’re enjoying is a great way to encourage them to give you more of that thing, and also gives your sexual play the added edge of becoming more of a multi-sensory experience.
Some people adore their dirty talk to be filled with swear words, others hate it.For example, maybe your partner has a relatively high sex drive but their engine only gets revved up when they’re already thinking about sex. Again, this will all be based on what you authentically desire in the moment, but saying something along the lines of “I’m trying to get work done but I can’t stop thinking about last week when we were 69’ing and your delicious juices were flowing into my mouth” could be the thing that pushes them over the edge to jumping you.They want to have sex more often but it just doesn’t cross their mind all that often. Any statement about what you have liked doing with them, or that you are envisioning doing with them, is a great way to ease into a super-vocal sex session.When someone says “Talk dirty to me baby…” in the bedroom the hopefully-soon-to-be dirty talker instantly freezes like a soaking wet roll of toilet paper being thrown out of an igloo in Antartica. Alas, this is what people call it so I have to meet society where it’s currently at. Dirty talk, just like sex itself, is something that needs to be calibrated to the individual that is hearing the dirty talk from their partner.As you might know, if you’ve been reading my work for a while, I have a tendency to gravitate to fairly polarized sex.
Which means that the dominant/submissive roles play themselves out in my dirty talk quite a bit.
You are the sexiest person on the planet.”“You look so hot right now” turns into “You are better than any fantasy I could ever come up with.
I fucking love you and your perfect/delicious/sexy big/little (body part).”“I love having sex with you” transforms into “I love it when you grab the sheets when you’re about to come.
Make sure you check in with your partner (outside of the bedroom) to see if there’s any words that they want you to avoid during your dirty talk.
And no, it doesn’t take away from the sexiness of your dirty talk if you check in with them. It’s the same well-spring of respect that makes you think to ask your partner if their penis/clitoris prefers softer or firmer stimulation. it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.
In Sachen Sexting wisst ihr wie der Hase hoppelt und für den Fall, dass jemand danach fragt und ihr unglücklicherweise gerade in der ollen Jogginghose auf dem Sofa lümmelt, habt ihr ein paar sexy Schnappschüsse auf Vorrat zur Hand.