Not interested in dating after divorce
But, I figured, if Robin Wright can snag a hot younger boyfriend after 15 years of marriage and a very public divorce, I could at least give dating a shot. I decided to take my mom's advice and ignore my own hangups.To my pleasant surprise, my 30-something jadedness confidence combined with the dawn of casual online dating culture made for one damn fun year and a half. No one bats an eye if you go out with a 22-year-old or a 40-year-old. Also, what's the point of going on dates if I am not ready for a relationship? Anyone who knows a single man in his mid-30s wanted to fix me up with him.
During my teens I treated this as if it was a rudimentary aspect of being an adult in the 21st century, and the next step in life; ‘the right direction’, if you will.Even I have had fleeting thoughts akin to the above during some of the darkest days and shining moments of my life.And this is precisely why I’m writing this blog post.The best part about being divorced after a short marriage is being single again at 35. When my marriage ended after just two years, the idea of navigating the dating world all over again seemed daunting, unappealing, and pointless.Plus, the last time I'd been seriously single, it was 2006; texting was barely a given, much less Tinder.Nowadays, my dates either live alone in grown-up apartments or come back to my grown-up apartment.
If I'm lucky, I even get poached eggs for breakfast.
I even adjusted my behavior ever so slightly to make myself more to their liking. My attitude was, take it or leave it, this is how I am. After the first three months of a relationship, I would idealize everything and be convinced this person was perfect. As someone who tends to get fixated on one person prematurely, I decided the healthiest option is to date several people at once.
If I'm into two to three guys, I can't get obsessed with any single one.
Looking at the most popular statistic; 42-50% of marriages end in divorce.
A scary figure no doubt, but this has helped me understand and cultivate my own reasons for wanting to enter a relationship both in the past and in the future.
I intend to answer a few pertinent questions that have been on my mind for a very long time, around the subject of dating and relationships.