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Playing the cat-and-mouse dating game can be exhausting.Whether you’ve just met a guy you like, you’ve been casually dating someone new or you can’t get over your ex, figuring out how to act is anything but easy.
Find what you love, because if you’re happy with who you are, it will “bring more balance to your relationships,” Hart adds.But try to minimize how often you do it, because it could mean you’re too desperate.“Sometimes I'll check their page to see if they’ve had any activity after they read my message and to see if they’re responding to other people,” Charlotte adds.She texts him “an unnecessarily large amount of times about pointless, mostly petty things,” such as mutual acquaintances or her homework.Chris usually answers along the lines of “yeah,” “cool” or “lol haha nice.” He says this is his way of telling her he isn’t interested without being blatantly rude. You get nervous when he doesn’t respond Worse, “if you get sweaty and nervous when [he doesn’t] answer,” you might want to revaluate how attached you are to this guy, Smith warns.This becomes a problem if you get so stuck worrying about their life that you can’t get on with your own. Jenna*, a junior at UCLA, is well aware of this: “I tend to not like guys’ posts more than once because I’m scared it will come off as clingy and annoying, unless they like all of mine.” If cyber-stalking its compromising your independence and making you anxious, you’ve gone too far. You don’t trust him If you need to know what your guy is doing every second or you insist that he joins you everywhere you go, these are red flags.
Evan*, a freshman at UCLA, once went out with a girl who “would freak out if I was with friends and went five minutes without texting her with a reason as to why I didn't text her.” Although this is an extreme example, her behavior was most likely due to a far more common insecurity.
Agreeing with everything he says, giving him little gifts and cards for no reason or simply being too nice to him when he doesn’t treat you as nicely are just some of the signs that you’re trying too hard, according to our experts.
“It makes a guy undervalue you, and it leads to a vicious cycle,” Mendez warns. If you value yourself, he will do whatever it takes to get you.
“It got really annoying.” In Ryan’s case, this girl’s behavior was harmless, but beware of crossing into stalker territory.
Smith has seen many extreme examples in her years of consulting, such as girls waiting outside guys’ lectures, registering for classes based on the classes a guy was taking or simply finding every excuse to hug or touch him.
If he asks to hang out on a night when you have plans with your girlfriends, don’t ditch them for the guy!