Problems with dating a single dad
Feelings are the key to compatibility, in my opinion.I look forward to having another opportunity to learn about myself “in relationship” at some point. But I believe by having my priorities clear and articulated I can do a better job of finding and sorting through the process of finding that NEXT RELATIONSHIP. UPDATE: Responding to a comment on another site about this post, I’d like to share a few more observations. Here are several points where I think we need more discussion.1. Yes, I selected these potential dates and knew their age, and also that they had not ever had children.
At our age kids are either a choice you made or one you didn’t. It may take several months to get in our first four dates, but… And then we’ve got all the negotiations about how and when we want to see each other. Fearless Commitment To Monogamy At first divorce may seem like we’ve gotten the key to the kingdom of sex again. And if you want to go further, we’ve got to establish some mutual objectives.(Red Flags, we like to call them.) As we navigate “dating” again, we quickly realise the rules are very different.Our experience gives us some distinct advantages in terms of recognising what we don’t want.And perhaps our unfinished wounding might keep us from starting the dating process again.Don’t miss the exciting conclusion of this single dad’s journey: A Dad In Love, Again(I’ve got two kids and a full-time job, but I’d still like to find time to be with someone.)1. I will admit that getting back out there, for me, as a man, initially was about sex.And nothing against the non-parents in the group, but I’m so wrapped up with my kids, that if you don’t have that same passion and joy, we’re probably going to have to look for things to have engaging conversations about. (Let’s not start with jumping in bed or looking at vacation calendars for a while. (If we’re about to sleep together I can assure you we’ve had this conversation.)8.
If you have kids, we’ve got an immediate starting point for everything. Brutally Honest If it’s not a fit on the first date I’m going to try to let you know as gently and as quickly that it wasn’t a fit. Feeling the Feelings Men are often accused of not feeling their feelings.
One thing I will tell a first date, “You can ask me anything. And while we are no longer a relationship we went through the whole process, getting to know each other breaking up, without any drama. And I usually share this concept on the first date. Maybe this explains a lack of second dates.) Here it is. The beauty of that is feelings include the ability to fully love.
So when opportunity arrises I look forward to being 100% present with my feelings.
Get to know if you like talking to, as well as looking at your potential partner. But if you slow the drive to the bedroom you might avoid getting mixed up in something purely physical.
It can blur your vision when trying to figure out if you want to hang with this person for the long run.2. (I’d like to keep getting fitter, but my joy is genuine.) In several previous online dates I found myself sitting across the table from very attractive, usually younger, women who had nearly nothing in common with me. The Spark Is Only a Start If the chemistry (tail wag) is ON, there are still a ton of steps along the path before we’re in a relationship. (If I’m a reader and you’re a reality tv junkie, we might not go the distance.) We need to synchronize our schedules over time. If we do decide to sleep together I want to know that we’ve just become mutually exclusive.
AND ANOTHER UPDATE: I didn’t “find myself on a date” I realised during the date, with an attractive woman who was within my desired age range who happened to be younger than me and not a mom.