Thirty something dating
For many women in their 30s, the pressure to get married can be intense.Julie says she isn't feeling that pressure as much anymore.
It just makes me an adult living an adult life." She finds it ironic that her achievements may turn men off.That's the focus for me."For devout Muslim Mubarakah, a 30-year-old mother of four, life in her 30s is about family and career.Married for 14 years, Mubarakah never had to worry about the dating scene. "When you meet someone and you're talking to them, the purpose is for marriage."I've tried JDate, a Jewish Internet dating service, Match.com, setups by my friends," Julie says."I recently adopted a dog, hoping to meet someone out in the dog park." Like many single women in America, Julie is no stranger to the dating scene—but finding dates isn't always the problem. It's that I'm not meeting anyone that I'm attracted to."I run a criminal background check on every guy I go out with," she says.
"I have to be very careful about who I invite into our lives." Amy also realizes that a woman with kids isn't what every guy is looking for. I think they're the bonus piece to the set, but there are a lot of men who don't see it that way," she says.
"My original goal was to meet a man, have a family just like I grew up in," she says.
"But it just doesn't seem to be going that way." As a single mom, Amy says the pressure comes from people who feel like something must be missing in her life.
One issue that plagues an average of 6.3 million women in America is being single.
Julie, a Chicago pediatrician, struggles with the stigma of being alone in her 30s.
An open attitude helps Mubarakah deal with misconceptions.