Difference between dating and married
If we want to have and enjoy that kind of Christ-centered intimacy, we need to get married.
Just because we are waiting to date does not mean we are sitting around and waiting.He wants to use you and your gifts to change other people’s lives.If he wills for you to be married, he wants to make you into a strong and caring future wife or husband.So why do so many of us still dive so quickly into dating?Well, in part, because Satan masks the risks so well (Revelation 12:9).We all want our hearts to soar for someone or something. Many of us date because we’re trying to fill those needs in love.
The romance and mystery of marriage seems to hold the highest earthly peaks of pleasure and friendship. We want to contribute something significant to a meaningful cause. If you asked us, we might say we’re “pursuing marriage,” but a lot of us aren’t even close to marriage — in age, finances, maturity, education, stage of life.
For many of us, we just want to be happy, to belong, to be valued.
We imagine our deepest needs being met in the intimacy of being with a special young man or woman.
The spiritual war for our hearts is real, and the stakes are high, so it’s critical to ask why we think we should date in the first place.
Why did I have a girlfriend when I was twelve (and thirteen, and fourteen, and even eighteen)?
Life is never only, or even mainly, about love and marriage.